Find a Sponsor
Work the Steps
Why do we work the Steps?
They took away the pain
They gave me hope
They gave me the psychic change I needed
They helped me find forgiveness
They helped me deal with my past
They helped me overcome my fear and my character defects
They helped me find a higher power that I could relate to
They helped me understand my disease
They provided treatment for a disease that was killing me
They returned me to my family and gave me new friends
They taught me how to pray and meditate
They gave me back my self-respect
They helped me understand the insanity of my disease
“There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth;
not going all the way and not starting.”
The role of the sponsor is clear: they help you work The Steps. They do not give you a ride to meetings, lend you money, or buy you dinner, although they may do all these things and more. In time, they can become a confidant, a guide, a mentor, and a friend.
Reach out for a Sponsor
At the end of your first meeting, raise your hand, introduce yourself to the group, and say you need a temporary sponsor. Someone always responds. They may or may not be your permanent sponsor, but they will be your lifeline to sobriety until something better comes along.
Your Sponsor knows recovery
They will lead you on a pathway you cannot see and don’t understand. They got here the same way you did and they can guide you. They understand who you are, what you did, and what you need to stay sober.
Constant contact with your Sponsor
is an absolute necessity. You must speak with them in person or on the phone every day. You must be absolutely and completely honest with them. You must be willing to share your deepest feelings and most horrible memories.
We claim spiritual progress
not spiritual perfection
“Keep on adding, keep on walking, keep on progressing:
Do not delay on the road, do not go back, do not deviate.”
Meetings are the heart and soul of AA
We are a self-help group like no other. Bill W. discovered long ago that in order to stay sober, we must reach out to other alcoholics. And the best place to find other alcoholics and addicts is in the rooms of AA.
AA Meetings are hands-on
I discovered that I had to be proactive in my recovery. I could not hang back and expect sobriety to come to me. I had to chase after it with all my heart. Slipping into a meeting after the Serenity Prayer, sitting quietly in the back of the room, speaking to no one, then slipping out just as quietly before the Lord’s Prayer—that wasn’t gonna cut it!
Recovery is important--arrive on time
Hang out with the ones who clearly have their shit together and listen to what they have to say. Avoid the losers. It won’t take you long to recognize them. Get the name and phone number of a person every day. Go to a meeting every day. Those who relapse almost always say they quit going to meetings. Stay late. Help clean up. This is your new home. Love it and take care of it.
Find a Home Group
A group where people can get to know you well. You will find you can share your problems with them and they will recognize when you’re upset. In the rooms, I don’t have to wear a mask. I can be who I am and I am accepted as just that. Fellowship becomes a wonderful part of the AA life.
Meetings help untangle my thinking
At times, my thinking becomes disordered, tangled, or downright dysfunctional. Over the years, I have discovered that a meeting somehow untangles the knots in my mind. I think clearer and I feel better. Happens every time.