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We Worked the Steps Because....>>
They took away the pain
They gave me hope
They gave me the psychic change I needed
They helped me find forgiveness
They helped me deal with my past
They helped me overcome my fear and my character defects
They helped me find a higher power that I could relate to
They helped me understand my disease
They provided treatment for a disease that was killing me
They returned me to my family and gave me new friends
They taught me how to pray and meditate
They gave me back my self-respect
They helped me understand the insanity of my disease
If I could find recovery by myself, I wouldn't be here
“Take the first step in faith.
You don't have to see the whole staircase,
just take the first step.”
—Martin Luther King, Jr.
The role of the sponsor is clear: they help you work The Steps. They do not give you a ride to meetings, lend you money, or buy you dinner, although they may do all these things and more. In time, they can become a confidant, a guide, a mentor, and a friend.
Your Sponsor knows recovery
They will lead you on a pathway you cannot see and don’t understand. They got here the same way you did and they can guide you. They understand who you are, what you did, and what you need to stay sober.
There is a natural fear that I will not be able to tell my horrible secrets to anyone. But the only real secret in AA and NA is that we all carried the same secrets. What I thought is no worse than what Billy did. What Maggie did was what Susie fantasized about. You Sponsor has heard it all before. He probably did things you haven’t even thought of yet. Don’t be afraid.
Reach out for a Sponsor
At the end of your first meeting, raise your hand, introduce yourself to the group, and say you need a temporary sponsor. Someone always responds. They may or may not be your permanent sponsor, but they will be your lifeline to sobriety until something better comes along.
Constant contact with your Sponsor
is an absolute necessity.You must speak with them in person or on the phone every day. You must be absolutely and completely honest with them. You must be willing to share your deepest feelings and most horrible memories.
We are a self-help group like no other. Bill W. discovered long ago that in order to stay sober, we must reach out to other alcoholics. And the best place to find other alcoholics and addicts is in the rooms of AA.
AA Meetings are hands-on
I discovered that I had to be proactive in my recovery. I could not hang back and expect sobriety to come to me. I had to chase after it with all my heart. Slipping into a meeting after the Serenity Prayer, sitting quietly in the back of the room, speaking to no one, then slipping out just as quietly before the Lord’s Prayer—that wasn’t gonna cut it!
Recovery is important--arrive on time
If recovery is important to me, I will arrive on time. Find someone to talk to. Hang out with the ones who clearly have their shit together and listen to what they have to say. Avoid the losers. It won’t take you long to recognize them. Get the name and phone number of a person every day. And, of course, for some long time measured in months, go to a meeting every day. Those who relapse almost always say they quit going to meetings. Stay late. Help clean up. This is your new home. Love it and take care of it.
Find a Home Group
A group where people can get to know you well, and vice versa. You will find you can share your problems with them, and they will recognize when you’re upset. And you will learn to do the same for them. In the rooms I don’t have to wear a mask. I can be who I am and I am accepted as just that. Fellowship becomes a wonderful part of the AA life.
Meetings help untangle my thinking
At times, my thinking becomes disordered, tangled, or downright dysfunctional. Over the years, I have discovered that a meeting somehow untangles the knots in my mind. I think clearer and I feel better. Happens every time.
The most important reason to go to an AA meeting is that it provides a daily dose of spirituality. As an Old Timer alcoholic once told me, “I have the disease of addiction, and I treat my disease with a daily dose of spirituality. And I get that spirituality from going to meetings and from prayer and meditation.”
Spiritual Fitness keeps me sober
It is said that to stay clean and sober, I must maintain my spiritual fitness, and I believe this to be true. Like daily bread, today’s spiritual nourishment is only good for one day. You will have to come back again tomorrow for more.
Never give up
“There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth;
not going all the way and not starting.”
We claim spiritual progress
not spiritual perfection
“Keep on adding, keep on walking, keep on progressing:
Do not delay on the road, do not go back, do not deviate.”